The power to block your number, that is.

I have the power!

Do you have someone in your life that just won’t give up?  I do.

Since this is only one person, I feel that the idea of changing my number as overkill, too dramatic and, let’s be honest here, a HUGE hassle. Therefore I looked into a feature called “Block that Fucktard’s Number” and guess what?  It works!

This may not be a big deal to some of you, but to me this is significant enough to prompt this post.  It has taken me a long time, way too long, like 30 years too long, maybe even longer (I think you get the point) to realize that while I believe in the mantra “Do unto others what you want done upon yourself”, I never stopped to see the people who were ignoring that and walking all over me.  Well, no more.  No more I say!

I started to look at how I was being treated by people I had put in high esteem and seeing them for who they really are; narcissists, bullies, users and those who simply had their heads up their own asses, and I decided on whom I needed to let go.  Don’t get me wrong, I had terrible anxiety anticipating the fallout from my decision, but I knew this was what I needed to do for myself.

On the basis of full disclosure, I was both relieved and disappointed at the assumed fallout.  Most of the people I had decided to let go, didn’t seem to notice, or noticed and didn’t care.  The others tried to reconnect again, but with a simple friend request.  When I rejected it a 2nd time and didn’t receive a “How come…?” email, reality set in, and I was relieved.  When some people tried to reconnect again with a personal email, I put a lot of thought into their feelings and welcomed the connection.  Some people surprised me. Most of them didn’t.

One of the individuals I have tried to cut ties with doesn’t get it, and continues to reach out.  Flashback several years, I would have struggled to ignore the contact, keep the messages, and eventually respond, creating another crisis to deal with.  Today, after two attempts, I blocked the number, again.  Boundaries are WONDERFUL!

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